A Conversation with Mom

[kybearfuzz]

I'm in my hometown for the week, visiting family and friends after my long travels. I'm finding out that Mom is getting a bit "cute" in her old age. She's been harrassing my sister about her weight. My sis has always been very tiny, but after having my nephew, kept a bit of the weight. She's not fat by any stretch, but she's a lot curvier than she used to be. Mom, who has always been a thin woman, is hurting my sis' feelings with these comments.

Last night, I went to Mom's to show her my trip pictures. While there, she was telling me about the son of one of the folks in her building who recently passed away. The son is there tending to his mom's affairs. She said he reminds her of me, not in looks, but in actions: (in her words) he's a loner, has no real need for anyone, loves to draw and cook and read, hates crowds, has no use for foolishness, doesn't date much, is work-driven, and is short with people when he's frustrated. Uh... okay, was that supposed to be complimentary??

I think Mom's medication has turned off her tactfulness switch. And for the record, I'm betting the guy is gay too.

Comments

[jeremasaur.livejournal.com]

A better way to say what she prolly meant... you're independent, love art and cooking, love intimate settings, are straightforward, driven and no-nonsense. It's just that your Mom lost the ability to actually speak well for a few moments.

Now the doesn't date much thing... you can just disregard that outright. _I_ don't date much. You've been on two or three dates since we've begun talking... you date plenty. lol

As for your sister. Yeah I don't really get that part at all. I hope she doesn't realize how she is effecting your sister... and just needs to be talked to about it.

*hugs* Be well.

[kybearfuzz.livejournal.com]

LOL! I guess these traits can have a positive spin, but Mom must have a problem with the correct wording. I've thought about saying something to Mom about her comments to my sister. The only negative is that Mom gets her feelings hurt too easily... still, Mom needs to realize those comments of hers aren't well received.

Thanks, handsome. ;)

[book-of-daniel.livejournal.com]

Maybe your mom was just trying to hook you up...?

[kybearfuzz.livejournal.com]

OMG! I certainly hope not. Mom isn't terribly comfortable with my being gay, so I seriously doubt she'd try to play matchmaker... at least I hoped she wouldn't.. (shiver)

Plus the guy is in his mid-fifties..

[clauditorium.livejournal.com]

1. The similarities your mom listed was a good mix, including several positive things. I don't think it was meant to be complimentary or insulting, but rather simply descriptive.

2. Does she know you're gay?

[kybearfuzz.livejournal.com]

1. I wonder. Even my stepdad was looking puzzled when she was describing this guy.

2. Oh yeah, Mom knows I swing for the other team, the coming out to her is the culmunation of a string of unfortunate misunderstandings. One day I'll have to post that one, it's actually quite humorous... now.

[clauditorium.livejournal.com]

2. Looking forward to this story!