Hmmmm. Faced with her "gay people are icky" comments, I might come right out and say something like "Susie, you might be surprised how many gay people you actually know," - not in a condescending or mean way, but just to put the thought into her head. She might not associate it with *you,* but she might realize just a little bit that you can't tell about someone's sexuality just by looking. Or, you could say "Hmmm, I don't really feel that way; I have some gay friends I care very much about," or whatever. That lets her know that you're not comfortable with closed-minded attitudes without being really preachy and turning her off altogether. With regards to the fixing-up-with-the-niece situation, you could say something like, "Thanks for thinking of me, Mary, but I'm really not interested in dating any new women right now,". She *might* get the hint, and if not, you're at least being honest and gracious.
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Date: 2003-09-18 06:47 pm (UTC)