Question for the Peanut Gallery

[kybearfuzz]

As part of our benefits, we have the option to donate our vacation time to someone who is sick or has a loved one in the hospital. This person has to be on an approved list for donation and they have to have no leave of their own, vacation or sick.

One of my co-workers in the lab recently had her husband go into the hospital due to a complication with his diabetes. I donated a few days of leave to her so she could spend time with her hubby while he recovers. Her hubby is a nice guy and a big cuddly teddy bear sort. However, I had wondered why she had no leave of her own as she had been in the agency longer than I have and people generally have a storehouse of sick leave built up. One of my co-workers told me that she often comes in late or leaves early, because she doesn't feel like being there, and that she often will take off an entire sick day because she had a headache.

Now I'm a little irked. Although, what happened to her husband is awful and I'm glad I donated leave to her to help him, I'm feeling a bit used in that she's sqandered all of her leave for trivial things and "illnesses" and is now using mine. Should I feel bad about this or angry?

Comments

[hylandr.livejournal.com]

Umm... what was the question?

[kybearfuzz.livejournal.com]

Sorry Don, I guess I am wondering if I should have done this or asking why I feel bad about NOT wanting to donate the leave now. I updated the entry.

[hylandr.livejournal.com]

Well, whether you should have is a moot point anyway now, but it's totally up to you. You feel bad because you domated something to someone who squandered what she had already. It's a question whether she will really appreciate something she obviously didn't appreciate when she had it in the first place. I think her husband may appreciate it more. Maybe she'll learn from this in the future. If not, I personally wouldn't give her the opportunity again.