Teenage Woes
Jan. 23rd, 2004 07:05 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
kybearfuzzWell, my teenage admirer caught me online tonight. I thought this was my chance to get rid of him. With his problems, I really didn't want to meet him and thought I could end this a bit more painlessly. In fact, I wasn't tough enough I think. The exchange went on FAR TOO LONG! I cut it in for those who are interested in reading the drama of it. Ugh! What a nightmare! He'll figure out I did him a favor someday, I hope.
My teenage admirer at work
I changed his user name and place for privacy's sake...
Mr. 18: if you got to know me, you would see i am very mature for my age, and that will tell you why i wont go for younger guys
kybearfuzz: I'm sure you're a very mature guy, but I have a policy of not dating anyone with the word "teen" in their age. Besides, you'll meet someone when you get to college, I guarantee it.
Mr. 18: So I can't have one date?
kybearfuzz: Well, you're pretty far away...
Mr. 18: I'm only like 15 minutes from Levi Jackson
Mr. 18: And I seen your pics.
kybearfuzz: You're assuming I live down there. I dont. I took those pics when I was down there this past summer. I live near Covington.
Mr. 18: I mean, I'm a great person, I don't even act like a teenager. I work, I have set goals and have reached half of them.
Mr. 18: At least take a chance to get to know me.
kybearfuzz: And that's great, something you should be proud of, definitely. But you'll go to EKU next year and you'll be surprised all the guy available to you then.
Mr. 18: I don't go by looks, so it dont matter how many guys I have chasing after me.
kybearfuzz: You're assuming you wont meet someone who'll sweep you off your feet.
Mr. 18: Well, if they sweep me off my feet, they would definetly be very mature, sweet, gentle, kind hearted, and not childish
Mr. 18: not a lot of guys are like that
kybearfuzz: No they are not, but you never know. EKU may even have a gay/lesbian club that could be a great place to meet guys on campus.
Mr. 18: What would it hurt for you to get to know me first?
Mr. 18: It won't hurt nothing
Mr. 18: Please? At least get to know me.
kybearfuzz: I'm 31, you're 18. That's a large age gap, especially now.
kybearfuzz: And I believe you'll do better with someone closer to your age.
Mr. 18: I know, but if you think about it, you can't just base love and friendship on age alone.
kybearfuzz: I know, but it does make differences...
Mr. 18: It's not like I can help that I'm 18, no more than you can help being 31
Mr. 18: In some cases yes, but you have to get to know somebody first before you judge that
kybearfuzz: You have four glorious years of college ahead of you, at least, you'd be surprised how much you'll change in that time. You'll find someone you have more in common with there, believe me.
Mr. 18: I just wished you'd take a chance to get to know me first.
kybearfuzz: I'm 3 hours away and 13 years older.. I think you can do better.
Mr. 18: What makes you say that?
Mr. 18: I have dated guys much older than you before.
kybearfuzz: Really? Including the last one?
Mr. 18: the last one was 27
Mr. 18: but I have dated older
kybearfuzz: I just think you need someone closer to your age and experience.. and so do I.
Mr. 18: Honey, I have experienced enough in my life to know that I want.
Mr. 18: I have been thrown around like a little rag doll
Mr. 18: so I know how it feels being hurt
Mr. 18: I have experienced life.
Mr. 18: I work, I pay bills, I take care of myself.
Mr. 18: the last guy I dated cheated on me.
kybearfuzz: You've experienced life, yes, but you're still 18. The good stuff is still ahead for you.
Mr. 18: but the thing is, once they have cheated on me, they want me back, and i wont take them back
kybearfuzz: College is an amazing thing and going in single is a large help to that, believe me.
Mr. 18: I'm not worried about that.
Mr. 18: I'd rather go in having somebody in my life.
Mr. 18: I'm no whore.
kybearfuzz: I think you'd do better the other way. I know so many couple who broke up when one went to college. Meeting someone there as they get their life started, so you two could plan where you wanted to go together and not have the hassle of being established somewhere already.
Mr. 18: what makes you think that im like the other ppl?
kybearfuzz: What makes you think I am?
Mr. 18: I never said you was
Mr. 18: I'm not gonna break up with somebody just because I go to school. I'm not like that.
Mr. 18: Once I love somebody, thats all that matters to me.
Mr. 18: Let me tell you something ok?
Mr. 18: I dated this one guy that lived in California, he came here once a month.
kybearfuzz: Sure.
Mr. 18: He was dying from lukemia (or however you spell it) and some other kind of cancer
Mr. 18: he was also crippled in his right hand
Mr. 18: he also had the mind of a 9 year old
Mr. 18: but do you know what i did?
kybearfuzz: What?
Mr. 18: i stayed right by his side
Mr. 18: the whole time until the day he died
kybearfuzz: Well, as great as that looks on you, you're life is going to hit so many changes so soon, that I feel you'd be better off finding someone your own age.
Mr. 18: Are you trying to tell me that you don't want anything to do with me?
kybearfuzz: Dating someone so much younger is complicated.. and it's a drama I'm not so sure I want. Sorry to be harsh, but it's the truth. I think you and I would not be a good mix.
Mr. 18: You don't really know that yet sweetie.
Mr. 18: I don't do anything to even cause any drama
Mr. 18: cant you at least give me one chance to prove that to you?
kybearfuzz: Look. I'm sure you're a great guy, but you're a great guy for someone else. I live too far away in my opinion to date you and I'm not looking to date a teenager. Giving you a chance isn't the problem, I just don't see a relationship between us working out. I'm sorry if that hurts, but it's the truth. You'll believe me when you get to college that you'll find many men you'll want to date and one lucky one will be yours. Trust someone who was there once.
Mr. 18: I see
Mr. 18: I'm just a typical teenager who has a big heart, but nobody wants me
Mr. 18: for who i am
kybearfuzz: You feeling the dating woes.. that's not unusual for anyone at any age.
Mr. 18: One chance will not hurt a little fly, it hurts me most knowing that you wont even take a chance to get to know me.
Mr. 18: a sweet young man, who has a lot to offer, a big heart, a gentle touch, and a warm soul
kybearfuzz: I'm sure you're all these things, but that doesn't change the way I feel about it, dating someone so much younger than me.
Mr. 18: Thats why you have to get to know me sweetie.
Mr. 18: I'm not like the other younger guys.
Mr. 18: You'll find that out
kybearfuzz: Look, I'm trying to end this easily and as painlessly as possible, but you are NOT what I'm looking for. I'm sorry, I'm sure gay dating in your hometown is not easy, but you're barking up the wrong tree here.
Mr. 18: well, i can tell your not looking for true love
kybearfuzz: I am, but not with someone your age.
Mr. 18: whats wrong with my age?
Mr. 18: am i not legal enough?
kybearfuzz: You're barely an adult! You have your entire life full of changes ahead of you and college will be the most changes you'll go through...
Mr. 18: well, it dont really matter anymore, you're just like the rest of the guys.
Mr. 18: nobody never wants to get to know me
kybearfuzz: I dont' want to compete with your attention at school. I want a full time guy.
Mr. 18: I planned on being a full time guy.
kybearfuzz: You'd date me then find someone with closer interests and even closer age on the EKU campus. I wish it were easier for you to believe. Take it from someone who has been there!
Mr. 18: What ever happend to what was on the inside? does that not matter to anybody anymore?
kybearfuzz: As you get older it doesn't matter as much, but at this time in your life, it makes too large a difference.
Mr. 18: the inside matters most to me...why do you think i wanted you to get to know me?
kybearfuzz: I'm sorry, you're just too blinded by wanting a boyfriend to understand. I'm sorry, really I am. Please don't contact me again.
Mr. 18: Fine, whatever man.
Mr. 18: I figured you'd be a dick like the rest....I should have known, all kentucky guys are assholes
kybearfuzz: That's not a very adult thing to say. It will get better, I promise.
Mr. 18: Well, its not very adult of you to just sit there and turn me away just because I'm 18 neither.
kybearfuzz: Look, I'm just not interested. How many ways do I have to say it?
kybearfuzz: Good bye
My teenage admirer at work
I changed his user name and place for privacy's sake...
Mr. 18: if you got to know me, you would see i am very mature for my age, and that will tell you why i wont go for younger guys
kybearfuzz: I'm sure you're a very mature guy, but I have a policy of not dating anyone with the word "teen" in their age. Besides, you'll meet someone when you get to college, I guarantee it.
Mr. 18: So I can't have one date?
kybearfuzz: Well, you're pretty far away...
Mr. 18: I'm only like 15 minutes from Levi Jackson
Mr. 18: And I seen your pics.
kybearfuzz: You're assuming I live down there. I dont. I took those pics when I was down there this past summer. I live near Covington.
Mr. 18: I mean, I'm a great person, I don't even act like a teenager. I work, I have set goals and have reached half of them.
Mr. 18: At least take a chance to get to know me.
kybearfuzz: And that's great, something you should be proud of, definitely. But you'll go to EKU next year and you'll be surprised all the guy available to you then.
Mr. 18: I don't go by looks, so it dont matter how many guys I have chasing after me.
kybearfuzz: You're assuming you wont meet someone who'll sweep you off your feet.
Mr. 18: Well, if they sweep me off my feet, they would definetly be very mature, sweet, gentle, kind hearted, and not childish
Mr. 18: not a lot of guys are like that
kybearfuzz: No they are not, but you never know. EKU may even have a gay/lesbian club that could be a great place to meet guys on campus.
Mr. 18: What would it hurt for you to get to know me first?
Mr. 18: It won't hurt nothing
Mr. 18: Please? At least get to know me.
kybearfuzz: I'm 31, you're 18. That's a large age gap, especially now.
kybearfuzz: And I believe you'll do better with someone closer to your age.
Mr. 18: I know, but if you think about it, you can't just base love and friendship on age alone.
kybearfuzz: I know, but it does make differences...
Mr. 18: It's not like I can help that I'm 18, no more than you can help being 31
Mr. 18: In some cases yes, but you have to get to know somebody first before you judge that
kybearfuzz: You have four glorious years of college ahead of you, at least, you'd be surprised how much you'll change in that time. You'll find someone you have more in common with there, believe me.
Mr. 18: I just wished you'd take a chance to get to know me first.
kybearfuzz: I'm 3 hours away and 13 years older.. I think you can do better.
Mr. 18: What makes you say that?
Mr. 18: I have dated guys much older than you before.
kybearfuzz: Really? Including the last one?
Mr. 18: the last one was 27
Mr. 18: but I have dated older
kybearfuzz: I just think you need someone closer to your age and experience.. and so do I.
Mr. 18: Honey, I have experienced enough in my life to know that I want.
Mr. 18: I have been thrown around like a little rag doll
Mr. 18: so I know how it feels being hurt
Mr. 18: I have experienced life.
Mr. 18: I work, I pay bills, I take care of myself.
Mr. 18: the last guy I dated cheated on me.
kybearfuzz: You've experienced life, yes, but you're still 18. The good stuff is still ahead for you.
Mr. 18: but the thing is, once they have cheated on me, they want me back, and i wont take them back
kybearfuzz: College is an amazing thing and going in single is a large help to that, believe me.
Mr. 18: I'm not worried about that.
Mr. 18: I'd rather go in having somebody in my life.
Mr. 18: I'm no whore.
kybearfuzz: I think you'd do better the other way. I know so many couple who broke up when one went to college. Meeting someone there as they get their life started, so you two could plan where you wanted to go together and not have the hassle of being established somewhere already.
Mr. 18: what makes you think that im like the other ppl?
kybearfuzz: What makes you think I am?
Mr. 18: I never said you was
Mr. 18: I'm not gonna break up with somebody just because I go to school. I'm not like that.
Mr. 18: Once I love somebody, thats all that matters to me.
Mr. 18: Let me tell you something ok?
Mr. 18: I dated this one guy that lived in California, he came here once a month.
kybearfuzz: Sure.
Mr. 18: He was dying from lukemia (or however you spell it) and some other kind of cancer
Mr. 18: he was also crippled in his right hand
Mr. 18: he also had the mind of a 9 year old
Mr. 18: but do you know what i did?
kybearfuzz: What?
Mr. 18: i stayed right by his side
Mr. 18: the whole time until the day he died
kybearfuzz: Well, as great as that looks on you, you're life is going to hit so many changes so soon, that I feel you'd be better off finding someone your own age.
Mr. 18: Are you trying to tell me that you don't want anything to do with me?
kybearfuzz: Dating someone so much younger is complicated.. and it's a drama I'm not so sure I want. Sorry to be harsh, but it's the truth. I think you and I would not be a good mix.
Mr. 18: You don't really know that yet sweetie.
Mr. 18: I don't do anything to even cause any drama
Mr. 18: cant you at least give me one chance to prove that to you?
kybearfuzz: Look. I'm sure you're a great guy, but you're a great guy for someone else. I live too far away in my opinion to date you and I'm not looking to date a teenager. Giving you a chance isn't the problem, I just don't see a relationship between us working out. I'm sorry if that hurts, but it's the truth. You'll believe me when you get to college that you'll find many men you'll want to date and one lucky one will be yours. Trust someone who was there once.
Mr. 18: I see
Mr. 18: I'm just a typical teenager who has a big heart, but nobody wants me
Mr. 18: for who i am
kybearfuzz: You feeling the dating woes.. that's not unusual for anyone at any age.
Mr. 18: One chance will not hurt a little fly, it hurts me most knowing that you wont even take a chance to get to know me.
Mr. 18: a sweet young man, who has a lot to offer, a big heart, a gentle touch, and a warm soul
kybearfuzz: I'm sure you're all these things, but that doesn't change the way I feel about it, dating someone so much younger than me.
Mr. 18: Thats why you have to get to know me sweetie.
Mr. 18: I'm not like the other younger guys.
Mr. 18: You'll find that out
kybearfuzz: Look, I'm trying to end this easily and as painlessly as possible, but you are NOT what I'm looking for. I'm sorry, I'm sure gay dating in your hometown is not easy, but you're barking up the wrong tree here.
Mr. 18: well, i can tell your not looking for true love
kybearfuzz: I am, but not with someone your age.
Mr. 18: whats wrong with my age?
Mr. 18: am i not legal enough?
kybearfuzz: You're barely an adult! You have your entire life full of changes ahead of you and college will be the most changes you'll go through...
Mr. 18: well, it dont really matter anymore, you're just like the rest of the guys.
Mr. 18: nobody never wants to get to know me
kybearfuzz: I dont' want to compete with your attention at school. I want a full time guy.
Mr. 18: I planned on being a full time guy.
kybearfuzz: You'd date me then find someone with closer interests and even closer age on the EKU campus. I wish it were easier for you to believe. Take it from someone who has been there!
Mr. 18: What ever happend to what was on the inside? does that not matter to anybody anymore?
kybearfuzz: As you get older it doesn't matter as much, but at this time in your life, it makes too large a difference.
Mr. 18: the inside matters most to me...why do you think i wanted you to get to know me?
kybearfuzz: I'm sorry, you're just too blinded by wanting a boyfriend to understand. I'm sorry, really I am. Please don't contact me again.
Mr. 18: Fine, whatever man.
Mr. 18: I figured you'd be a dick like the rest....I should have known, all kentucky guys are assholes
kybearfuzz: That's not a very adult thing to say. It will get better, I promise.
Mr. 18: Well, its not very adult of you to just sit there and turn me away just because I'm 18 neither.
kybearfuzz: Look, I'm just not interested. How many ways do I have to say it?
kybearfuzz: Good bye
