kybearfuzz | Saturday Events

Another typical weekend here in the hometown area. My sister hosted one of those housewares parties for a friend and my mom attended, so I didn't see much of them today. My twin bought a Game Cube yesterday, so he and the brother-in-law are playing a Tiger Woods golf game.. so dull.

I did make it to the Falls to get a few shots. The water was much clearer than I thought it would be, but the wind was so blasted cold it was hard to take pictures. I'll be heading back down there in the Spring to see it hopefully in all it's glory.

I did discover something a bit disturbing to me. It seems my twin and one of his buddies was going to head to Cincinnati to go to the gambling boats in Indiana. When I asked if he was planning on stopping by my house to stay the night, he said no. This has started to bug me, that he comes all the way up to my neck of the woods and doesn't stop by, when he used to before. I hate to think it, but this change in behavior started after my coming out to him. I think he's afraid his friends will discover I'm gay if they stay the night at my house. Not a problem, as #1, most of his friends are butt ugly, and #2, they've stayed there before and never realized it, so why would this be any different. I guess he's not coming as far as I originally thought.

Tomorrow, the long drive home.

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Golf is so exciting to begin with.. For them to make a simulation of that excitement so you can have it all day is just downright dangerous. Hope they survive the addiction..

Hmm...maybe he thinks that the guys from Queer Eye would be stopping by if he stayed there. ;)

It's a shame that he seems so uncomfortable with it. Are you planning on talking to him about it?

The twin and I don't discuss it as he doesn't want to hear anything about the "lifestyle," yet he asks my sister questions like, "Is he seeing someone?" I hate to say it, but I often use my sister as the go-between on these issues as he seems willing to discuss it with her, but not me. Strangely, we communicate on every other issue but this one.

That IS strange. Maybe he thinks that people wonder if he's gay, too, because you guys are twins?

Most of the folks back home don't know I'm gay, mostly because I only hang out with my brother and sister for the most part. Nearly all of my close high school friends no longer live in town, and the few classmates that are there, I don't care to know anymore.

Maybe he fears his friends will belive he is gay if his twin is gay. That could make him uncomfortable.

Well, I was teased as being a sissy for years in grade school, so if his friends figure it out, it shouldn't be a big shock. And we're not identical twins, so he'd have that out there. You're likely right in that assessment though.

Maybe you should have a talk with your brother, tell him you wish he'd visit like he used to.

Not sure about that. It's not that I'm begging him to stop by the house, but rather that I believe that he feels that he cannot anymore. My coming out is still pretty recent, I'm hoping he'll grow up eventually.

That's why I suggested you ask him to visit more. That would lead into a conversation about why he doesn't.

But it's true it can take family members a bit of time to get used to someone coming out.

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